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Mystic Rose Meditation II
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STAGE TWO: CRYING
Copyright - Pragito Dove, Author of Lunchtime Enlightenment
www.pragito.com
Reprinted with permission from the Author
SUGGESTED ROSAFLORA ESSENCES TO TAKE FOR SUPPORT
(Take 4-7 drops of the essence - Dosage Strength - under the tongue):
Formulas: Blossoming Heart, Compassion~Forgiveness, Release Grief, Faith in the Storm, Five Roses Stress Rescue
Single Rose Essences: 'Evelyn', 'Gertrude Jekyll', 'L.D. Braithwaite', 'Guy de Maupassant', 'Timeless', 'Tournament of Roses'
"The reason people feel better after crying is that they may be removing, in tears, chemicals that build up during emotional stress. Emotional tears have a chemically different content from irritant-induced tears like the ones that appear when we slice onions. Something unique is happening when we cry emotional tears. When we use the expression 'cry it out,' that literally may be true. People do feel better after crying."
-Dr. William H. Fry II: Crying: The Mystery of Tears
The second week of the Mystic Rose meditation is for crying. For three hours each day, you'll just allow yourself to cry and feel your feelings without talking or analyzing.
Through the crying week, you'll be releasing old wounds and gaining insights and understandings as old memories are allowed to surface. Getting out from under the weight of sorrow that you may have carried around for years can bring deep relaxation...
There's not much mystery about the technique, though keeping the room dark can help you move into your sadness. Sitting or lying down, just close your eyes and move deeply into all the feelings that make you cry. Gently open the dam that's been holding all your pent-up feelings, all your sadness and grief. Just let the tears flow out of you. If you feel blocked or get sleepy after crying for a while, try some gibberish. Get into a fetal position and rock your body back and forth a little. Just let the tears come.
After three hours of crying, sit silently for fifteen minutes. Just watch whatever is going on inside and outside.
As you do the crying technique, be careful not to fall asleep or daydream or "space out." The mind will try to keep you occupied with other thoughts because it doesn't want to lost control. Remember the mind has learned to control, so letting yourself cry means releasing a lot of old conditioning about controlling yourself and your feelings. This week it's okay to not be okay.
A major key here is acceptance. One of the ways we create psychological pain is by fighting what is happening when the feelings are uncomfortable. The fight creates more pain. If can find the courage to accept, the pain will heal itself more quickly than if we fight it.
Don't fight the tears. Just allow them to happen. Tears are mysterious - they come on their own. Some days of the crying week you might cry in a flood, others more softly and quietly. Some days you might not cry at all. That's fine; just stay present with your feelings.
Until I started doing the Mystic Rose, and experiencing the crying week, I did not fully understand what had been happening to me through all those years of stuffing my feelings.
I was born and raised in London, England. The emotional environment was stiff upper lip, grin and bear it, have a cup of tea, and let's all pretend that everything is fine. The English are masters at repressing emotions and keeping everything "under control." I learned quite early that I had to hide, stuff down, and control my feelings, and so my childhood was spent largely numbed from emotion I really don't remember expressing my feelings much at all.
When I first tried the Mystic Rose, I didn't cry much. In fact what came up was anger. After the breakthrough of the laughter week, I felt that I had spent enough of my life connected to depression, misery, and suffering. All I could feel was anger, so I used the crying time to get in touch with the pain that was underneath it. Anger, as I discovered, is aggressive pain. By differentiating anger from pain I was the able to understand and heal myself on a much deeper level.
Another time I wasn't particularly aware of pain, only boredom. By probing a bit, I discovered that allowing and accepting the boredom took me into deeper layers of feelings. Staying with feelings, the dam did eventually burst and tears just flowed out of me. This was the first time I cried with such compassion and acceptance for myself, with such awareness and consciousness that I was healing myself. It was the first time I consciously took responsibility for my painful feelings instead of blaming others for them.
After doing the crying week, my appearance literally changed. I could see my face, my eyes, jay, neck, and shoulders begin to relax. I looked years younger, healthier, more alive. Instead of hanging on to my sorrows, I found an ability to free myself from the burden of them so that I could open up and allow my soul to sing. This is what the crying week is about - freeing ourselves from the burden of old pain. What has been deemed a weakness is infact one of the most powerful healing forces on earth.
Both laughter and crying release emotional tension; they are two sides of the same coin, but in the Mystic Rose we start with laughter because it is easier to laugh than to cry. Laughter prepares us to open up; it helps us to move into our hearts so that by day eight we are very ready to cry and to feel. Then, after seven days of crying, we feel cleansed, opened, and deeply relaxed, ready to move into the last stage, where we will integrate the processes of laughing and crying.
STAGE THREE: THE WATCHER ON THE HILLS
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